Keeping a Good Attitude

Personality flows from thoughts. Emanating good feeling to be lovable and increase alliances is as easy as taking responsibly for emotions and thoughts. Thinking good thoughts projects the type of confidence important to maintaining friendships.

Conveying likability begins in the mind. Other people are not responsible for your mood. You are responsible for your own mood. If something is boring, think of something interesting to make it fun. When listening to a never-ending lecture, focus on positive aspects of the speaker or speech. Take an idea from the lecture and play with it in your mind. Keep occupied by jotting down keywords. These activities maintain an uplifted feeling.

After learning how to change moods find positive attributes in everything else. Everyone has different perspectives. People also define parameters of good and bad. Practice finding a good aspect in everything. Being proactive helps facilitate positive outcomes when talking to someone or promoting a course of action. After practicing, it is easier to find positive attributes when needing a quick response or making tasks enjoyable.

Now there is less reason to stop and edit thoughts. Positive communication develops positive flow between everyone. Attractive people have attractive answers to questions. Saying something hurtful often reflects negatively on the speaker more than the subject.

There is a difference between criticism and being hurtful. Criticism offers both positive and negative input as a means to help another person. Hurtful, is negative without concern for the person being criticized. People focus on negative input more than positive input. When someone says something hateful it seems to burn in the soul and destroys open communication. People do not seek contact with hurtful people or consider their opinions invalid. Seeking validation from friends creates balance through being supportive, even if the support is diluted.

It is impossible to control other people. If they decide to change, then okay. Letting one person or group dominate life with negativity is a losing battle. They say something hateful, let it go and bring focus back to the people who have agreeable values. Use time better, by finding people are in agreement with personal values.

Do not be afraid to acknowledge opinions. Opinions are only opinions. There are benefits from listening to various thoughts. Positive reinforcements make someone feel good about them selves. However, always be honest. Tell someone when there is toilette paper on their shoe. Everyone can see it. If wanting to help them, they appreciate a friendly warning though it is still embarrassing. Remember it is impossible to control other people's emotions. Be graceful when someone notices there is toilette paper on your shoe.

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